5 Secrets Home Educators Won’t Tell You

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Home educators can be a secretive bunch.  We don’t always tell you everything as we don’t think you really want to know, or probably can’t be bothered explaining it!

Here are a few home education secrets!

Secret 1.

We really aren’t ‘doing’ much.

When you ask a home educator what they have been doing you will get one of two replies.  Either ‘Oh nothing much, just life’ or a list of everything they have managed to complete that day/week in attempt to prove that they have done ‘something’.  The truth is a lot of home education is relying on the child to learn themselves and not needing to be pressured with strict timetables and sitting down to do hours of work.  Yes, some parents like their children to sit and do workbooks or certain topics, but the truth is that it’s is likely to be on the child’s terms.  Others like to unschool and give our children complete choice of what they learn and it’s amazing what they do learn without the pressure!

Secret 2.

We aren’t that patient!

So many people come up with the reply ‘Oh, I couldn’t do that.  I don’t have the patience!’  Well the truth is I don’t need to be, the kids learn through play and exploration, I’m not sitting down and teaching them.  Telling your own child how to do something that they do not want to learn does not go well!!

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A typical day for us may include exploring a woodland (P.E), discussing different plants and considering why they grow there (ecology), watching a nature documentary (biology), playing Monopoly (Maths), reading stories together (English), painting (art) and of course lots and lots of play.  None of this is seen by others as serious work, but for children it is, they really are learning!

Secret 3.

More often than not they will be late.

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I have always been that friend who is on time.  Actually, no my friends will tell me that I am normally at least 10 minutes early and really struggle to be late.  But over the last few years I have learned to relax and not worry so much about being on time.  It’s ok to get places late and your friends aren’t going to go mad if you’re a few minutes late.  That lack of stress means that home educators are usually late, even me! But don’t worry, we will always be on time for the important appointments and meetings (just in case you’re thinking that we don’t instill the importance of time keeping into our kids), just not the everyday stuff.

Secret 4.

Home educators are human and will always have some wobbles about home education.

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I’m sure parents of school children will have wobbles too, are they at the right school, the right area etc?  Well home educators will also worry, it’s not the norm and we often feel judged.  So many people appear to judge us for taking a different path and we don’t want to prove them right or let down our kids.  Our kids are happy and loved and learning for themselves, but occasionally the worry about when they will read or write legibly can become a worry, or perhaps that they don’t make friends as easily as we had hoped.  But the bigger picture is that in the long run we are doing what is best for our children and despite our worries we are happy with that choice.  Sometimes we need to have faith in our offspring and everything will turn out right.

Secret 5.

They probably ARE weird.

As weird is often considered as someone doing something against the grain and being DIFFERENT, then home educators are probably weird.  Home education is not the norm and we would probably let our kids do things yours aren’t.  So yeah, we’re weird.  And so very proud of our weirdness!


  1. November 17, 2017 / 11:22 am

    Brilliant post, it’s really interesting to hear about what you do. And also about the doubt – we all have it, don’t we? I hope that I’m doing the right thing for my girls by putting them into the school they’re in rather than the local school but you’re never quite sure if it’s right as you don’t know how things would have turned out if you’d made a different decision.

    • November 17, 2017 / 8:37 pm

      Wouldn’t it be great if we could have a parallel universe time machine to check how the other options turned out?!

  2. January 9, 2018 / 9:46 am

    I loved hearing about your typical day and how you naturally incorporate “traditional” learning themes into it. I toyed with the idea of home education but decided to send my daughter to school instead. I admire those parents who can make it all work because its such a great option for educating your children.

    Most parents think that they are obligated to send their children to school, when in fact the obligation is actually on the parent to educate and then most people defer to a school to educate our children.

    This post was a real insight, thanks for sharing!


  3. Helen
    February 3, 2018 / 9:44 am

    Fantastic to read this, I home educate my son and two little girls and I can relate to your post especially about being wierd ?. My two lgs are 6 and 4 and can read and write and love doing work with Mummy, it’s not often you come accross others who are home educating too ?

    • February 3, 2018 / 1:34 pm

      Aww, that’s so good to hear how well they are doing! My children can’t read yet, but they certainly love being home educated too. 🙂 x

  4. February 22, 2018 / 11:29 pm

    These are great! We’re planning to home ed our daughter and although I’m 100% committed to the idea, I still have wobbles, it’s good to hear other home edders do too!
    And congratulations because someone loved this post so much, they added it to the #BlogCrush linky! Feel free to collect your “I’ve been featured” blog badge 🙂

    • February 22, 2018 / 11:48 pm

      Thank you! Yes it is always good to know we’re not alone in the home ed wobbles, good luck on your journey too!

  5. January 15, 2019 / 9:12 pm

    I LOVE this! And I can totally understand and relate to each point! Number 1 in particular is one of my biggest bugs about being a home educator – people asking what I’ve taught them today/this week. I guess most people think we’re replicating school at home, and we’re not! Plus, I never ask people what their school going children learnt today, so I don’t know why they feel they should ask me! Grrr. Great post! 😃

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